Archive for the ‘Advice’ Category

How to Lose A Guy in 10 Seconds

Subway ArrivesThis one is mainly for the ladies, but guys can learn a whole lot from this as well. This post is a pretty long one, but there’s a lot of good stuff in it, so you may want to read the whole thing. In short, I overheard a great conversation on the subway today, and I thought I’d share what I gathered from it.

There was a couple sitting across from me and they were with a female friend. The woman (for our intents and purposes will be named Woman) was telling her friends (the Boyfriend and Girlfriend) about how she had just been asked out by a friend of hers. What hooked me into the conversation is when she said, “Really, he’s the nicest guy, but I just…” At that point, I didn’t even try to look like I wasn’t paying attention. Read More…

December 17, 2009  Tags: , , ,   Posted in: Advice, Goals, Life Partner, Stories  One Comment

Method #5: No More Mr. Nice Guy

Dude with Red SweaterYou heard me, I’m doing away with my nice guy tendencies. Well, not really…

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about past relationship failures and about my current situation with “Samira.” In the past, I’ve both cursed my nice guy lifestyle and embraced it. What I am starting to think now is that I need to distance myself from it.

I’ve read a lot of advice from “pick-up artists” and “dating gurus” and the like and they all say that being a nice guy is a first class ticket to perpetual bachelorhood. I have and continue to disagree. Though I have yet to find relationship success being a nice guy, I am confident that it is possible. And instead of swearing off my nice nature completely, I have decided to strive for a happy medium. Read More…

December 14, 2009  Tags: , , , ,   Posted in: Advice, Goals, Life Partner, Methods  One Comment

Method #3: Change Without Changing Yourself

My next piece of advice has to do with the fine line between making yourself open and attractive to people, without changing your personality or natural habits. As I have stated, if you change yourself you not only jeopardize any relationship you form, but you also make things more difficult for yourself unnecessarily. However, this does not mean you cannot change certain things to create opportunities for yourself. Read More…

November 1, 2009  Tags: , , ,   Posted in: Advice, Goals, Life Partner, Methods  No Comments

Just a Friend?

I’ve recently been thinking about the whole “just a friend” issue. Many nice guys complain that they are just friends and can get no further into a relationship. I’m starting to wonder what is so bad about being friends? Read More…

October 29, 2009  Tags: , ,   Posted in: Advice, Goals, Life Partner, Lifestyle  No Comments

What Now?

One of the problems I always have when I find myself attracted to a person is what to do about it. My first instinct is to let the person know how I feel, by whatever means necessary. However, mostly through trial and error, I have found this and many of the other techniques I’ve tried to be futile. Read More…

October 21, 2009  Tags: ,   Posted in: Advice, Goals, Life Partner  2 Comments

Method #1: Approachability

Now that my first goal is squared away, I wanted to take some time to go over methods. I mentioned that a lot of finding a compatible person requires some amount of waiting; however, waiting for 200 days is not a very compelling thing to do. Instead, I’ve decided to employ some techniques to perhaps help the process along. It may end up being like an experiment to see which methods work and which ones do not. Read More…

October 20, 2009  Tags: , ,   Posted in: Advice, Goals, Life Partner, Methods  No Comments

Inperfection

I was trying to think of a really good way to start this new phase of the blog. I finally decided that it would be best to talk about imperfection (as a side note, I am aware that the title of the post is misspelled. That was done purposefully). Read More…

October 18, 2009  Tags: ,   Posted in: Advice, Goals, Lifestyle  One Comment