Archive for the ‘Methods’ Category

Method #5: No More Mr. Nice Guy

Dude with Red SweaterYou heard me, I’m doing away with my nice guy tendencies. Well, not really…

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about past relationship failures and about my current situation with “Samira.” In the past, I’ve both cursed my nice guy lifestyle and embraced it. What I am starting to think now is that I need to distance myself from it.

I’ve read a lot of advice from “pick-up artists” and “dating gurus” and the like and they all say that being a nice guy is a first class ticket to perpetual bachelorhood. I have and continue to disagree. Though I have yet to find relationship success being a nice guy, I am confident that it is possible. And instead of swearing off my nice nature completely, I have decided to strive for a happy medium. Read More…

December 14, 2009  Tags: , , , ,   Posted in: Advice, Goals, Life Partner, Methods  One Comment

Method #4: Physical Contact

Silhouette HugI had a pretty lucid dream last night that my crush came up to me randomly, sat on my lap and started talking to me affectionately (You can tell I’m pretty obsessive about all this because I’m starting to dream about her). Naturally, I would love for this to happen in real life, but what I learned from this is that what I am really looking for is the physical contact. Nothing is more exciting to me than to be in contact with an attractive woman. Even if it’s as simple as an arm around the shoulder. Read More…

November 6, 2009  Tags: , , ,   Posted in: Goals, Life Partner, Methods  No Comments

Method #3: Change Without Changing Yourself

My next piece of advice has to do with the fine line between making yourself open and attractive to people, without changing your personality or natural habits. As I have stated, if you change yourself you not only jeopardize any relationship you form, but you also make things more difficult for yourself unnecessarily. However, this does not mean you cannot change certain things to create opportunities for yourself. Read More…

November 1, 2009  Tags: , , ,   Posted in: Advice, Goals, Life Partner, Methods  No Comments

Method #2: Penalty

This is my system: in order to improve my communication skills I will attempt to assert myself more frequently. If I have something to say, but fail to say it due to timidness, that will be considered a “penalty.” I have a bracelet that I always wear and any time I fail to speak my mind, I will switch it from my right wrist to my left. Every morning, I will reset the bracelet back to the right. The goal is to go three weeks without having to switch. Read More…

October 24, 2009  Tags: ,   Posted in: Goals, Life Partner, Methods  No Comments

Method #1: Approachability

Now that my first goal is squared away, I wanted to take some time to go over methods. I mentioned that a lot of finding a compatible person requires some amount of waiting; however, waiting for 200 days is not a very compelling thing to do. Instead, I’ve decided to employ some techniques to perhaps help the process along. It may end up being like an experiment to see which methods work and which ones do not. Read More…

October 20, 2009  Tags: , ,   Posted in: Advice, Goals, Life Partner, Methods  No Comments